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Supporting Emelienne

Tuesday, December 14th, 2010

Child Tending Broken Baby Seedling

Our New Moms Group is a customer favorite.  Time and again we hear moms tell us how grateful they are for the friends they made and the support gained.  Moms also tell us their experience didn’t end when their group stopped meeting.  Many graduates of our New Moms Group continue meeting on their own on a regular basis or they schedule regular playdates so their babies can keep in touch with their first friends.  It’s something we’re very proud to make available to parents.  It also makes us proud because it’s an opportunity for new moms and their babies to make a charitable contribution to a good cause.

Starting in 2011, Bellani will donate a portion of the class registration fee to a local family whose baby girl needs our support.  Today we want to share with you the story of a sweet baby girl who has touched our hearts and who we hope to help.  Her parents have been regular Bellani customers since they became pregnant so we’ve known this precious little girl for quite sometime.

Meet Emelienne.  Eme, as friends and family call her, made her grand entrance into the world on July 22, 2010.  Little Eme was born with lambdoid craniosynostosis (posterior plagiocephaly) which is a condition where some sutures at the back of the skull have fused together.  There are only 12 reported cases in the world. She will need a cranial renovation where the fused bone is removed and the skull is rebuilt into a normal shape.

Eme also has a hemifacial microsomia which is a congenital disorder affecting the development of the lower half of the face,  most commonly the ears, the mouth and the jaw.  Young Eme, only 5 months old, also has a cleft lip, congenital muscular torticollis (a fancy term for a condition in which the head is tilted to one side), a club foot, a malformed ear which is also hearing impaired, a malformed vertebrae resulting in a curve to the spine, a pelvic kidney and two holes in her tiny heart.

It’s overwhelming to know such a small baby can be plagued by so much.  Luckily, most of Eme’s conditions can be corrected with surgeries, physical and occupational therapy, and the use of casts, hearing aids and other assistive devices, not to mention time.  In fact, Eme will have her first major surgery on January 27, 2011 but it won’t be her last.  Doctors estimate she could need up to a dozen major surgeries before graduating high school.

Eme has a whole lot of love and support in her corner, including us here at Bellani, unfortunately love and well wishes alone won’t pay for Eme’s medical bills.  This is why we’re donating $25 from every New Moms Group participant’s registration fee to Eme and her family to assist with the very high cost of bringing baby Eme to being 100% healthy.  If you know someone who is expecting, please let them know they can find amazing support at Bellani through our New Moms Group and tell them how they can make a difference in one little girl’s life.

What’s Your Tradition?

Monday, November 22nd, 2010

Via Ohdeedoh

Growing up, Thanksgiving meant a big feast, laid back time with friends and family followed by a trip to the movie theater.  The infamous Black Friday was a day for setting up the Christmas tree.  The following weeks were always a frenzy of cookie baking and hours upon hours spent at the mall for holiday shopping.  My family would have a big Christmas Eve gathering and a lazy day of PJs and leftovers on Christmas day.

Needless to say the holiday season has always held a familiar, comfy rhythm in my family.   With kids of my own it’s been nice to develop our own holiday rhythm.  Our girls are little, 18 months and 3 years old, so our traditions are still small little things.  We put up the Christmas tree the day after Thanksgiving.  There’s always a random photo shoot on our couch for holiday cards shortly after turkey day.  My husband and I stay up until the wee hours Christmas Eve gift wrapping &  setting the stage for Christmas morning.  These are simple little things that have just found their way into our lives over the holiday season since we’ve had kids.

This year, with our 3 year old aware of so much more, I’ve decided to introduce a few new traditions.  For Thanksgiving, we’ve been doing 30 days of gratitude where my daughter and I share with one another one thing we’re grateful for each day.  It’s been so sweet to hear what she’s thankful for that we’re making this a daily, year round thing.  For Christmas, I’ve decided to whip up an advent calendar.  I haven’t settled on what exactly we’ll do but I’ve gotten some wonderful ideas online.  I’ll be looking for recipes and activities to count down the days but just need to figure out what exactly I’ll make for my little girlies to open each day.  These are two simple things but they’ll add big punch in the heart department year after year.

What traditions are part of your family’s holiday rhythm?

~Carla~

Work, Stay Home Or the Best of Both Worlds?

Monday, August 23rd, 2010

Prior to having children, I had (what I realize now to be) a very incomplete picture of what life would be like once I became a parent.  In this very  blurry vision, I had a successful career, I had babies, I worked hard, had some kind of balance.  All very Hallmark but not very realistic.  As you can tell from my description, I didn’t take into account childcare; I didn’t have visions of daycare drop off or paying for a nanny.  I also didn’t consider I would want to stay home with my children.

When my first daughter was born I was overcome with a rush of certainty that my duty was to spend as much time as possible with this new little person.  I had never before in my life felt such a conviction for something.  At the end of the day (my maternity leave) I couldn’t make the numbers work to follow my gut.   We tried daycare for a brief stint and it just wasn’t for us.  So my husband and I altered our schedules so we barely saw each other but our daughter was always with one of us.  He spent days with her while I worked and he’d drive by once or twice a day for her to nurse.  He’d work at night and, while we barely saw one another, we were happy to have an arrangement that jived with our values as a family.

Come baby number 2 and I knew we couldn’t keep on with our wacky scheduling.  After many nights of crunching numbers and loooong discussions of whether or not we could have one parent stay at home, we pulled the trigger at the end of my maternity leave and I left corporate America (woohoo!).  I’m not a full-time stay-at-home parent but pretty darn close.  I’m with my girls a whole heck of a lot and sometimes they drive me to my wits end but those moments are rare compared to the multitude of joyous moments I get to witness.  When they’ve fled far from home to live their own lives and raise their own families I’m happy with the choices I’ve made and the memories of these first years I’ll always have with me.

We’ve been very fortunate to have been able to have a childcare situation that always aligns itself with our family values.  But it doesn’t just happen by chance.  When I worked in corporate America, I had to take the incentive to ask for what I wanted knowing the answer might be no.  It never hurts to ask and I got a yes.  I had to sacrifice some of my time with my husband when we both decided we’d work opposite schedules but it was well worth it.  Scaling down from 2 incomes to 1.5 is no easy task but it’s taught us the beauty of simplicity and brought us closer together.  And every move we’ve made has at the heart of it our love for our girls, our family.

From my chats with parents here at Bellani, I know parents come in all varieties – stay-at-home, work-at-home, work-out-of-home, almost-stay-at-home-but-work-really-really-part-time-out-of-home, want-to-work-out-of-home-but-currently-in-transition-but-really-enjoying-spending-time-with-the-kids.  I also know every parent does what they need to do for their sanity and in the best interest of their family.  Whatever your situation, though, I believe we all are striving for the same thing – balance.  If you work out of the home, you’re trying to juggle your professional life with your family life.  If you’re home, then you’re trying to figure out a balance between your family responsibilities and time for yourself.  No one has it easy even though the grass may seem greener on the other side.  Each scenario has it’s pluses and minuses.  I’ve shared how our family does things, what does your family do?

~Carla~